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When a person goes on treatment — I take one pill a day — undetectable is the goal.

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It feels like I have to twist someone's arm to see past my HIV viral not the greatest pick-up line, and it's certainly not great for my self-esteem.

Shame and fear was a part of it, but even more so I think there was a part of me that wanted to pretend that HIV hadn't happened to me.

That I could go on bad Tinder dates and laugh about them at brunch with my friends, get set up with friends, and pick up a guy when I was out for the night, just like everyone else.

But many people are still unaware of this development in HIV treatment or are unwilling to accept the science because of the stigma that surrounds the virus.

I grew up during the HIV/AIDS crisis and should have known better, but as a heterosexual woman, I equated safe sex with not getting pregnant more than with getting an STI, let alone HIV.

It's embarrassing to admit that now, but I really did ignorantly think sex was all fun and games.

For me, "dating," was basically a euphemism for casual sex.

I was living in New York City with a boyfriend I'll call Matt when I was diagnosed with HIV.

It was my first steady, long-term relationship, and we did what I used to think of as "grown-up" things.

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