The benefits of speed dating

For those of you who don't know what it is, here's a lowdown: One hour. I made several useful contacts out of the men that were there. Both the men and women there are generally acceptable people, and not the kind you would think are desperate to get a date. After three minutes a buzzer sounds and you move on. For matches (both of you ticked yes), email details are sent out to both people the next day.

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(I'm planning to work in the City of London.) Mostly it was people in demanding jobs who don't go out to bars too often.

Many of the guys said they chatted up more women that night in the hour than they had over the past month. Whilst I consider myself to have reasonable success on the dating scene, one of my weaknesses was the opening 5 minutes.

Even I must admit I've never managed anything close to 20 chat-ups in 60 minutes. I've been busy recently, and had only managed 4 numbers and 1 measly date last month. Conversation didn't often flow naturally in the beginning.

As for the women, I've split them up like this: I ticked 7 girls, and I got 4 matches. They don't tell you if a girl liked you if you didn't like them. A bad performance, I know, but that's beside the point. I consider this mightily impressive, and it's great to be overloaded with women. I don't think I can practice openings on 20 women in 60 minutes anywhere else. And after the speed dating, I went out and got 3 numbers easily at another bar. This site is filled with tips, and, as has been seen, the only real way is to get out there and try it.

Best analogy I can think of is driving a car — it was really scary first time out, but now it's natural. The problem is people who lack confidence just won't go out and try.

The best solution to this I've seen so far is DJ Boot Camp, but it still requires a lot of effort from the person.

This way, once you have paid your speed dating fee, you will HAVE to talk to 20 women, and you WON'T get a rejection, just a buzzer!

I highly recommend this as a confidence booster mainly, with the added bonus of dates!

And for the record, one of the stunners, two of the lookers and one of the datable girls checked me.

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