Free chat face to face without regester and pay money - Dating relationships and the demand withdraw pattern of communication

A meta-analysis of 74 studies, including 14,000 participants, shows 'demand-withdraw' pattern is a sign of distress in relationships.

"And it does tremendous damage." The silent treatment is part of what's called a "demand-withdraw" pattern.

"It's the most common pattern of conflict in marriage or any committed, established romantic relationship," says Paul Schrodt, Ph.

D., professor and graduate director of communication studies at Texas Christian University.

"And it does tremendous damage." Schrodt led a meta-analysis of 74 studies, including more than 14,000 participants, "A Meta-Analytical Review of the Demand/Withdraw Pattern of Interaction and its Associations with Individual, Relational, and Communicative Outcomes," published in (March, 2014).

Research shows couples engaged in demand-withdraw pattern experience lower relationship satisfaction, less intimacy and poorer communication.

The damage can be emotional and physical; the presence of demand-withdraw pattern is associated with anxiety and aggression as well as physiological effects (urinary, bowel or erectile dysfunction). "Partners get locked in this pattern, largely because they each see the other as the cause," says Schrodt.

"Both partners see the other as the problem." Ask the wife -- whom research shows is more often the demanding partner -- and she'll complain that her husband is closed off, emotionally unavailable.

Ask the husband and he'll say he might open up if she'd just back off.

Regardless of the role each partner plays, the outcome is equally distressing.

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