Dating new lover

You're dating a guy, and the make-out sessions have been so hot, you've practically dry humped holes into each other's jeans.

With all that chemistry, the sex has to be off the hook from the start, right? "Getting intimate with a new person can be clumsy," says Chris Fariello, Ph D, director of the Institute for Sex Therapy, in Philadelphia.

These four rules will make it completely enjoyable.

Rule 1: Don't Jump the Gun There's no doubt been so much buildup to this moment that you're tempted to skip foreplay and launch right into the part where you insert tab A into slot B. "Really, the first night with someone is when you should be taking your time," says sex educator Jamye Waxman, author of .

"Your goal should be to pay close attention to what works and what doesn't for the other person.

That way, you can please them right from the start." So keep things slow and steamy from the get-go.

During foreplay, any time his hands start to wander too daringly or it seems like he's going to try to go for the main event, grab his wrists and hold them tight. "Most men love it when a woman does something aggressive like this because it helps them understand what she wants," says Carole Altman, Ph D, author of Rule 2: Acknowledge Awkward Moments Of course we all want to be thought of as a goddess in the sack, so the instinct is to ignore any gawky moments and pray on the kama sutra that he will too.

But things will go much more smoothly if you do the opposite.

"Being with someone new is stressful enough because you're worried about what he'll think of your body and if he'll like what you're doing," says Altman.

"And if you don't accept the natural mishaps that are bound to happen, they'll silently taint the experience." To rescue the mood, you need to acknowledge these slips subtly in a way that suits the kind of sex you're having.

If you're both being playful, maintain that attitude — meaning, if he can't seem to get your bra unhooked, don't sit there as he gets frustrated. I know the trick with this." Or if the mood is more intense, find a way to keep that vibe intact.

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