Dating and sex for nerds and nice guys
2018 Update: We still stand by this advice on dating someone with less money (or more time) — but you may also want to check out our more recent discussions on love, including dating advice for career-driven women.This could be extremely controversial and slightly off-topic, but what about some sort of open thread about either (1) dating people who are way less busy than you are or (2) dating people who have way less money.
(Hey, I’ll admit it.) After a few years on the New York dating scene that was whittled down to “taller” — and I was even flexible on that point.
Still, I had particular problems dating other people in the same field as me because my competitive instincts came out, and if a guy hadn’t approached things exactly the same way that I had, then I had respect issues. Do you respect the person you’re dating and his or her career choices?
And I think that brings us to the first topic: – Respect. Does a career that pays less, or requires less time, rate lower in your eyes? If you find yourself rolling your eyes when he explains things to you about his career or his job, it may be time to move on.
On the flip side — do you think he respects what you do, and the time required for it? (I always hear stories of women “hiding shopping bags,” in some cases so their significant others won’t realize how much money they have to spend on frivolous things.
Those stories always make me a bit sad — you shouldn’t feel like you have to hide something from a person you’re serious about, and certainly not from a true partner.) – Lifestyle.
While you’re slaving away at the office, what is he doing with his free time?
If he’s going to bars every night or playing video games, do either of those activities worry you?
If he doesn’t seem to be doing anything and is just so excited to get your call, does bother you?
Hypothetically, if you had a similar schedule, what would you be doing with your free time?Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating